Word to your mother.

[MetalHeroOfTime]

Today, at least in the states, is Mother's Day! Hurrah for maternal figures! I hope you guys at least made a card for your mother. She went through heck to get you here. Seriously, I doubt any of you could stand being a blimp for 9 months so that you can clean diapers for years. Your mother is a really amazing person.

So, what did you do for mother's day? I made my mom a card.

Post Script: Do we have any mother's on the RWP? I doubt it. If we do, HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

[qwertyo76]

Nothing, I forgot. If I never saw my blood-relatives again I think I'd like that.

[MetalHeroOfTime]

Nothing, I forgot. If I never saw my blood-relatives again I think I'd like that.

Hokey Smokes, Qwerty, why on Earth would you say such a horrible thing?

[Solid Snix]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xhZRqPPTNjE

[Dan]

tis in fact mothers day in canada too. I plan to do nothing. I did give my dad 50$ though to go buy my grandmother something.

[qwertyo76]

Hokey Smokes, Qwerty, why on Earth would you say such a horrible thing?

Yeah I thought that might sound bad after I posted it. I just don't like them. I've developed in the same house but not with them, and they are varying degrees of crumby people. Same with my distant family, they as people I do not like and we have never been close. I used to be positive toward them when I was younger just because they're my relatives, but I learned that I did not want to be around them. They have never put much effort into making sure I am well, and they have been mean and lame. I do not resent them really, they aren't comparitively terrible, but I do think I ought to have grown up differently and with different people. I still live in the same house with them and wish I could just live alone at least for a while. If you guys know of a way I can live away from them is some government funded thing I'd like to know.

/Feeling like I left some things out.

[Nayib]

i ****in hate today

ugh i'm going back to bed

[The Colonel]

The only mother on this site is Ice, he birthed the site after all.

[MetalHeroOfTime]

The only mother on this site is Ice, he birthed the site after all.

No, Ice is more of a cold father figure who you can never get approval from.

[Dan]

Btw, xxx is a mom.

[Jackjack71]

I gave my mom a card. ^_^

And wow, there's a lot of negativity toward mothers here. Sorry if you guys haven't had the best maternal figures. :(

[Smouvy]

Didn't do anything for Mother's Day.

It's cuz Mother doesn't want anything done for Mother's Day.

She doesn't want to get fat on the inevitable box of chocolates we'd give her :P

[Bluish]

I went and got some flowers, a card, and her favorite cookies for her. Then she and I, my brother, and stepdad went to see the Avengers, then to a picnic. Overall a very nice day, I wanted to make it a little special because she's been mostly the only support I've had since my life started falling apart-ish.

Which makes it even harder to swallow that she said one of the most hurtful things she could say to me, and didn't even realize it, though she should have. To this day she hasn't come to accept my being queer, and when she asks me to stop for a day, she's saying she doesn't love me, just selective parts of me, which isn't even really me at all... not very motherly imo, it hurts to be told something like that.

[Adam]

I got my mom a CD and vinyl of Pink Floyd's Dark Side of the Moon. She was way stoked and we hugged it out and all that good shit. Then I asked her for gas money because that shit was steep.

Also, about the site, this is probably one of the angstiest places I've ever been to. I mean, don't get me wrong, some of you guys have reasons to feel that way toward your mom (DragonBottles comes to mind immediately) but some of you are just being...rude I guess is the best word for it. Sure you don't see eye to eye on a lot of things. Me and my mom get into arguments about gays and religion all the friggin' time, but at the end of the day, she's still my mom. And not just in the "I came out of her vagina roughly 22 years ago" kind of way. I mean she made sure I was safe when I was little, made sure I stayed on task in school, taught me rudimentary tasks to help me survive and stay clean, clothed me, kept me fed, and gave me gas money. We're excessively different people, but we're still mother and son regardless of what happens to either of us emotionally. I think we have at least an elementary mutual respect that, while we know there's shit we argue about, we care about each other regardless of all of that (which I believe is what love essentially is-the ability to not just over look the other person's flaws, but to accept them).

Really, the person I can relate with the most on this aspect is Bluish. She was pretty damned hurt by her mom (was too btw) and still cares about her and still worked to give her a happy day. To you, I say just tell your mom how you felt about what she said. If it escalates into an argument, just realize it and try to stay calm. You never know, you could end with by huggin' it out. If she loves you, while she may not agree, she'll still love you, you know?

[Jackjack71]

I went and got some flowers, a card, and her favorite cookies for her. Then she and I, my brother, and stepdad went to see the Avengers, then to a picnic. Overall a very nice day, I wanted to make it a little special because she's been mostly the only support I've had since my life started falling apart-ish.

Which makes it even harder to swallow that she said one of the most hurtful things she could say to me, and didn't even realize it, though she should have. To this day she hasn't come to accept my being queer, and when she asks me to stop for a day, she's saying she doesn't love me, just selective parts of me, which isn't even really me at all... not very motherly imo, it hurts to be told something like that.

I'm sorry to hear that... But yet at the same time, that's very resonsible of you to still give her a good day, because you know that she still cares about you. And sometimes that's all that matters.

[Bluish]

Me and my mom get into arguments about gays and religion all the friggin' time, but at the end of the day, she's still my mom. And not just in the "I came out of her vagina roughly 22 years ago" kind of way. I mean she made sure I was safe when I was little, made sure I stayed on task in school, taught me rudimentary tasks to help me survive and stay clean, clothed me, kept me fed, and gave me gas money. We're excessively different people, but we're still mother and son regardless of what happens to either of us emotionally. I think we have at least an elementary mutual respect that, while we know there's shit we argue about, we care about each other regardless of all of that (which I believe is what love essentially is-the ability to not just over look the other person's flaws, but to accept them).

I think it's cool that you're able to look at it like that. Those are some really good points that I hope a lot of people can remember, because they can be easy to take for granted. Also, no one's perfect, especially not parents - but it takes a mutual love to be a family.

I'm sorry to hear that... But yet at the same time, that's very resonsible of you to still give her a good day, because you know that she still cares about you. And sometimes that's all that matters.

I'm still holding on to the hope that some day she'll fully accept me. I'm certain it'll happen, though it may be a while. That doesn't change the fact that we're family and still love each other though (:

[Deebs]

Also, about the site, this is probably one of the angstiest places I've ever been to. I mean, don't get me wrong, some of you guys have reasons to feel that way toward your mom (DragonBottles comes to mind immediately) but some of you are just being...rude I guess is the best word for it.

as it turns out i'm going to my mother's wedding next month, we've patched things up pretty well, or at least are attempting to

still didn't do anything for mother's day though, mostly on account of it not being considered mother's day in the UK (it was earlier in the year), and mostly because she doesn't like it

[Adam]

no one's perfect, especially not parents - but it takes a mutual love to be a family.
Exactly. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qI0dCVwdedE)
as it turns out i'm going to my mother's wedding next month, we've patched things up pretty well, or at least are attempting to
Wow, that's really good to hear!

[Deebs]

yeah it should be fine i hope, she spread around the family that i was 300 pounds and that i was a satan worshipping drug dealer a few years back so it'll be nice to prove those rumors wrong to those who might still believe them

i also plan to come out too (not at the actual wedding) just so i know i won't run into issues later on, i don't want to work to mend a relationship just to have it ruined over something stupid later, you know?

[Adam]

yeah it should be fine i hope, she spread around the family that i was 300 pounds and that i was a satan worshipping drug dealer a few years back so it'll be nice to prove those rumors wrong to those who might still believe them

i also plan to come out too (not at the actual wedding) just so i know i won't run into issues later on, i don't want to work to mend a relationship just to have it ruined over something stupid later, you know?

Good luck and Godspeed...you...black emperor.

[Deebs]

the car's on fire

and there's no driver at the wheel

and the sewers are all muddied with a thousand lonely suicides



...thanks!

[Twi]

I love my Mommy. <:

Sure she's religious-conservative, but she's not nearly as gung ho about it as my Dad is and only acts as such just to appease him really. She's a lot easier to talk to about politics and religion and touchy subjects than my Dad is because she'll at least listen.

I got her a bouquet of flowers and a sentimental card (I usually get silly ones), and a Wizard of Oz mug. My sister bought her Twilight: Breaking Dawn (she's a Twihard and it's really funny to see my Mom in a fandom that isn't Star Trek).

[Jackjack71]

I'm still holding on to the hope that some day she'll fully accept me. I'm certain it'll happen, though it may be a while. That doesn't change the fact that we're family and still love each other though (:

Well how long ago was it that you told her (or she found out) that you're a lesbian?

[Dan]

Bluish as i'm sure you understand; this thread is giving me a serious mindcramp.

[Bluish]

Well how long ago was it that you told her (or she found out) that you're a lesbian?

Well, tbh she was never okay with my relationship from the start... snd that was about five and a half years ago. Although I never really gave her the full disclosure of my lifestyle, taking the time to talk to her about it until christmas before last. It's from that point that she's been having the most trouble understanding me..

Dan, I suppose if by that you mean how disappointed you've been with your mom, I do understand that and stick by what I said. It is possible for a parent to cross a line imo...

[Jackjack71]

Well, tbh she was never okay with my relationship from the start... snd that was about five and a half years ago. Although I never really gave her the full disclosure of my lifestyle, taking the time to talk to her about it until christmas before last. It's from that point that she's been having the most trouble understanding me..

All things take time. Especially with something like this, it sometimes takes people a long time to eventually accept it. It'll happen eventually, don't worry.

[Smouvy]

afaik, my mother has only gotten angry with me once.

She really is the sweetest mom I could imagine, and it makes me feel both sad and happy reading all these comments of people not being on great terms with their parents :(

[Deebs]

All things take time. Especially with something like this, it sometimes takes people a long time to eventually accept it. It'll happen eventually, don't worry.

for some people time just isn't enough with something like that, i'm afraid

though it is for most people